Are you in control of your emotions or are your emotions in control of you? God has called you to be the head and not the tail. If, for example, you tell people that they make you angry or offend you, you are allowing your emotions to control you rather than you controlling your emotions. Blaming is unhealthy and immature and feeds into needless arguments.
But, if you say, “I feel angry with you when…you leave clothes in the living room, etc.” you own your own choice to get angry and express how your significant other is failing to love you by not being thoughtful. It’s ok to be angry but it’s not ok to stay angry.
Also, as important as it is to process your anger, make sure that you don’t yell, demean, or abuse the person you are angry with. Always take a time-out before confronting someone, if you are angry at the time. No one deserves to be the recipient of your anger. Remember that the Bible commands you to not sin in your anger, which includes not venting your anger on an innocent person, and especially innocent children.
Ephesians 4:26-27 New King James Version (NKJV)
26 “Be angry, and do not sin”:[b] do not let the sun go down on your wrath, 27 nor give place to the devil.
This means that you better work through your anger before the day ends or you will find yourself sinning in your anger because God only gives you to the end of the day to work through it. Failure to do so will eventually result in bitterness, unresolved anger, and much worse, sickness, disease and premature death.
One of the best ways to process anger is to choose to forgive, which the Lord commands us to do. So, if you’re struggling with anger, it could very well be that you put yourself in that prison yourself by choice. Forgive and be free, for it is the very heart of God. Forgiveness will enable you to walk in love and peace, which you can’t do if you are controlled by anger. With this in mind, remember that you are to control your anger rather than allowing your anger to control you.
God bless you, my friends!
Author of “Perfect Love Casts Out All Fear, available as an e-book or in paperback.